I wasn't always an incredible dating coach. In fact, when I first started my journey at the age of 26
I was a janitor. I worked behind the desk in a basement. I spent all day in a dingy little building and I didn't make much money. In fact, the only great thing about that job was the free rent, but that meant that there wasn't much disposable income.
I was living on about 300 pounds ($400 USD) a week. I was broke. I was bored. I was in a dead end job and everything sucked.
My dating life was nonexistent. I thought I didn't have any good opportunities.
What did I do? I sat behind my desk and read every book I could get my hands on about dating. Then, I went out and I tested every single thing I read.
I wouldn't wish my journey on anyone.
I spent my first three months going out, talking to people, and testing theories. I got rejected over and over again.
Through hard work and effort I worked my way up to being a dating coach.
It took about two years and by 2008 I was recognized as being one of the top dating coaches in the world. In fact, I was voted 3rd best in the world by my fellow dating coaches.
I remember that when I was voted the 3rd best in the world I was suddenly, incredibly motivated. I wanted to work even harder because I wanted to be number one.
Channel 4 in the UK made a documentary about me called The Rules of Seduction. The documentary followed my rise to becoming the number one dating coach in the world.
Four years into my journey I thought I was on top of the world...
However being voted number 1 in the world ended up being bitter sweet.
The same day that I was voted number one in the world was the same day I found out I couldn't make my mortgage payment.
It was my first house. Nothing spectacular: three bedrooms and an office on the outskirts of Austin, Texas.
But it was mine and I loved it and I didn't want to lose it.
All the recognition in the world didn't mean anything if I couldn't even pay my mortgage.
That’s when I realized that becoming one of the best dating coaches in the world didn't mean that you were going to be one of the best businessmen in the world.
There were other people who I knew weren’t as good at dating as me but they made much more money.
I knew this because these people would hire me to create dating programs for them.
They went off and made a lot of money off the back of my name and the programs I created.
That was how I was getting by, making programs for other people.
That’s when I realized that if I was going to get good at this, I had to do something different.